"I was tired of listening to my harshest critic, the little voice in my head, so I became more KIND to myself." -Member of MySpondylitisTeam

You may judge yourself and others every day without realizing it. Like many members of MySpondylitisTeam have found, living with spondylitis is an exercise in frustrating moments. You may judge yourself when you look in the mirror, when you cancel plans due to pain, or when you falter with a simple task. The problem is when you let these internal judgments shape belief in yourself.

Here are recent conversations from members on MySpondylitisTeam:

"I have had a good day! Went shopping for a cruise I am going on tomorrow...my upper spine is hurting and very fatigued!"

"The beat of your song is only for you, a rhythm to catch the tune of your heart. When the day is hard and you want to give in, take a moment and listen real deep and find the song of your soul."

"Ever had one of those days or weeks in my case? Between the pain and the mental issues, it almost becomes unbearable. Luckily I have someone who loves me and cares about me enough to keep me from drifting down that depression hole. I also have all of you guys who support me everyday!! I am thankful for him and I am thankful for you all."

Experts in mindfulness and self-care recommend pausing a moment when you find you're judging yourself. Be aware of those judgments. Ask yourself where this is coming from. Use the moment to be gentle and compassionate with yourself.

Do you recall a time when you were particularly critical of yourself? What are you doing to show yourself kindness in those moments? Share in the comments below or directly on MySpondylitisTeam.